WHY PORN IS CRUSHING YOUR CHURCH

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Ok. True Confession. 

 

I am scared to death of snakes. 

 

For that matter, anything slithering around with no shoulders shoots shivers through my body. So with that in mind, imagine one of my boys telling me there was a huge snake in our house. Yes… that happened. 

 

It was time to man up. Conquer my greatest fear. 


So I grabbed my hockey stick. Because that's what Canadians do when life and death are at stake. 


And the rest is history.


Slapshot. Snake. Gone.  

 

Pastors and churches across America are ignoring the snake in the house. 

 

Maybe they don’t realize it’s there. 
Perhaps they don’t know how to get rid of it. 
Or worse yet — they really don’t think it’s that dangerous. 

 

Pornography has slowly slithered into the American church. And it is crushing us. 

 

I’m going to explain why in a moment — and it's going to hit you like a bombshell. 

 

But first, here are the facts.

 

80% of Christian men age 18-39 watch porn monthly. 
That figure still peaks at 70% for men ages 31-49. 

 

Now get this. 30% of the men in your church are porn addicts. That means they cannot stop themselves from watching porn for sexual gratification….


EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. 


If this doesn't alarm you, please allow me to hit the little red alarm button.

 

You're about to discover 4 ways porn is crushing your church. 

 

1. A man struggling with porn has no hope for help at most churches, so why go? 

 

Even though porn is perhaps the most significant struggle in the lives of most men, it is never talked about inside the walls of most churches. The reasons are many. 

 

Some pastors don’t know how to talk about it. Some are struggling in their own life and feel hypocritical for talking about it. And some misguidedly think the issue really won’t effect the church, since it is a hidden problem.

 

The bottom line is: If a guy’s church won’t speak to the most consequential struggle in his life, he isn’t likely to listen to anything else we have to say. 

 

2. Men struggling with porn start avoiding church. 

 

No one wants to be a hypocrite. And if a guy who is using porn continually feels a scalding sense of condemnation while everyone else is singing “How Great is our God”, it should be no surprise that man will avoid experiencing church any chance he gets. Watching Sunday football feels like a much better option emotionally. 


I believe we are losing more and more good men every week we fail to confront this issue.

 

3. Men who are porn users (or addicts) may come to church, but most won’t serve and give. 

 

I can’t even begin to tell you about the number of guys I’ve coached in the area of pornography who have lamented at how unqualified they feel to serve in God’s Kingdom because of the crap they look at each week. 

 

Unaddressed guilt most often leads to passivity.

 

How can a guy be enthusiastic about serving a vision that hasn’t helped him? Why would a man give his hard-earned money to a church that has failed to tackle his greatest challenge? 

 

4. Most men struggling with porn won’t trust the church with their problem. 

 

Why?


Pretty simple really.


Because most men have never seen another man in the pulpit or in a smaller group experience share his struggle honestly and provide hope for a porn-free existence. 

 

In other words, it’s not enough to throw out a few facts about the dangers of porn from your church pulpit or toss a couple scriptures about the evil of sexual sin… we must provide real-life testimonies of men that are learning to live free. 

 

When we go public with our stories, we have made our church community a safe place for men to be honest about their own struggles. 

 

Friends, a snake is in the house of Christ it is no harmless field snake. It is a a cobra and it’s venom is deadly. 

 

I have committed myself in 2018 to helping church communities successfully stem this clandestine epidemic. 

Here's how.

 

1. 24 Speaking Events in 2018.

 

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I am currently filling my travel schedule with Men’s Events and church services to share my story and speak to this issue clearly and compassionately. 
 


2. Training Local Church Leaders in each church I visit.

 

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I am personally training church leaders how to lead a Men’s purity group during my visit to each church I speak at. In fact, I am actually staying to lead and model the first group on either the Sunday or Monday night following my time at each church. 

 

3. Providing Purity Curriculum at each church I visit.

 

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I am giving each local church I visit my brand new prototype men’s group curriculum to use with their guys. After years of work, I have finally completed and tested this program and the contents are life-changing. 
 

I hope you can see how serious I am about helping pastors and churches. It is going to take more than a bandaid to solve this crisis. 


Note: I am speaking a maximum of 2 times a month and my 2018 is filling up, so please respond quickly if you would want more information about hosting a weekend event. 

 

Simply click on this link, complete the brief form at the bottom of the page and I will call you personally and discuss all the options. 

 

I want to thank each of you for your prayers and support. My efforts in helping men come out of this destructive life can seem endless at times. 

 

Answering difficult emails.
Calls from guys in crisis. 
Spouses who are broken.

 

I have another coaching day tomorrow with a new hero in my books. He is a man in ministry who had the courage to call me and say, “Blaine, I desperately need help.” 

 

Pray for us. I believe resurrection is going to dislodge the death in his life! 

 

Until next time,

 

Blaine


PS. Beginning the end of January, I am leading two recovery groups for guys who are serious about ending porn in their life. 

One in Tulsa, Oklahoma. 
The second will be an Online Group for men all over the nation.
 

Space is limited to 12 men in each group. There is a small fee to join. Both groups are close to being filled, so if you have a desire to participate, don't wait --- shoot me a personal email at bbartel99@gmail.com and I will send you all the details.