Five Ways Porn Sabotages Marriages

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Today, I want to take a few minutes to give you five ways that porn sabotages marriages. 

There is the false notion in the minds of some men that porn is a private sin that really does not effect anyone else. This is the greatest deception you could ever believe about pornography. 

Here are the five: 

1. Porn creates irrational expectations

When you view porn you are looking at actors, not reality. They are paid to do the things they do and each scene is carefully staged to take men and women to places in their mind that are far, far away from in real life and relationships.

The actors are usually "air-brushed" perfect and you can turn them off when you are done watching and never hear from them again. This is not real life and suddenly sex with your spouse can seem mundane, resulting in avoidance of intimacy which quickly will deteriorate your connection together. 

2. Porn steals time away from your marriage.

Statistics tell us the men who watch porn, often spend hours (and not minutes) a day searching, sifting and watching the myriad of videos available on today's internet. These are hours that are lost to their wives and family. (not to mention your career)

3. Porn produces shame in relationships.

Whether your wife is aware of your porn problem or not, she will sense the shame she sees in your countenance when you are together. It is natural for you to experience the guilt and shame when you are with her. You know you are choosing other women over her. And shame pushes us away (Adam and Eve in the garden), it doesn't draw us closer. 

4. Eventually she will find out. 

As good as men hide it, realize that wives are even better at finding it. They have a women's intuition and certain "spidey senses" when it comes to our secrets. And when exposure of this sin happens, the loss of trust with your spouse will be unbelievably damaging, if not fatal to your marriage. 

5. Porn addiction is an expensive proposition. 

When exposure of your obsession (or addiction) to porn does come out, (and it will) recovering from this stronghold in your life will cost you a lot money that was supposed to be used for your family. Rehabilitation and counseling, which often takes 12-18 months will cost you tens of thousands of dollars. It will demand time away from work and sometimes even the loss of a job. And this doesn't just hurt you, it is devastating for your family. 

Of course, there are many more ways the porn and sexual brokenness can sabotage your marriage, but suffice to say, it is worth everything you have to let Jesus into your private battle and get help now. 

I have developed a program that I offer to men called RESURRECT777.  

 

 

I walk you though the 7 secrets, the 7 tools and the 7 practices for real resurrection from this awful addiction. We can do this in person one-on-one or through Skype or FaceTime. If you are interesting in knowing more click here and complete the coaching form and we will send you all the details.

Grace always,

Blaine Bartel
Comeback Coach. Resurrectionist. Jesus flag-waver. 

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